Personal Study
There are many of good books and Web sites that can help you understand your situation. It seems that those who have the most success in understanding their feelings and controlling their behavior are those who read the most. The more you study, the more you are exposed to ideas that may help.
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One of your biggest challenges in resolving same-sex attraction is to overcome your confusion by getting good, true information. Many men report that this helps them make sense of their feelings and see things in a more enlightened perspective.
I struggled in darkness for many years until I finally found a book that explained to me the truth about same-sex attraction and that I had choices in how to respond to it. For several days I read it almost non-stop until I finished it. It rang true to me and gave me new insights into my feelings and gave me hope that I could do something about them.
There are many of good books and Web sites that can help you understand your situation. I found it helpful to read books about different psychological theories of same-sex attraction, as well as those that gave practical suggestions of things I could do. They didn’t all fit my personal situation, but in every one I found some elements that gave me a perspective that helped me understand and come to terms with my feelings.
It seems that those who have the most success in understanding their feelings and controlling their behavior are those who read the most. The more you study, the more you are exposed to ideas that may help. Good information from books, manuals, audio cassettes, videos, newsletters, Web sites, and other educational resources can help offset the demoralizing confusion you hear in the media at large. In the section Selected Readings, I list publications that were helpful to me. The description that follows each book can help you decide if it is a book that may be helpful to you.
I recommend that you subscribe to newsletters. You can get from Exodus International a list of the ministries that publish newsletters and for a small donation of $5 or $10 a year, you can receive regular newsletters that have valuable insights. I found the following newsletters to be particularly helpful:
 | Harvest News, P.O. Box 11469, Philadelphia, PA 19111, phone 215/342–7114, e-mail: HarvestUSA@aol.com. |
| Regeneration News, Regeneration, Inc., P.O. Box 9830, Baltimore, MD 21284–9830, phone 410/661–0284. |
| Nexus, Metanoia Ministries, P.O. Box 33039, Seattle, WA 98133–0039, phone 206/783-3500. |
| The Journey, Evergreen International. |