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About Us

This website was created by people who believe that if you experience unwanted same-sex attraction, you have options—you don’t have to accept a gay identity or engage in homosexual behavior.

This website presents options and practical solutions that have been experienced by thousands of people in their lives. We have developed this website to help you by referring to the experiences we have had. Since our motivation was primarily spiritual, we will freely discuss the spiritual aspects.

Most of the theories, approaches, and ideas on this site relate to men. Much of this information may also be helpful to women who experience same-sex attraction and some of it may not.

Throughout this website, we give examples of how people have dealt with particular issues. In all cases, these examples involve real people and real events, although some of the names have been changed to protect identities.

What We Stand For

We support personal choice

Many people who experience same-sex attractions choose not to embrace a gay identity or engage in homosexual behavior. In many cases, they also choose to affirm and develop their heterosexual desires and pursue a traditional heterosexual life. We respect and affirm their choice.

We support the individual's right to know

We do not seek to force our viewpoint on anyone, to tell others what they should do, or to shut down others' voices. We encourage alternatives to living a homosexual life—alternatives that many have found to be positive, self-affirming, and congruent with their values, morals, and beliefs. We support freedom of information.

We support client self-determination

Individuals conflicted over their same-sex attractions have the right to decide whether to seek professional counseling or therapy, what kind of counseling to seek, to be made aware of all alternatives, and to determine the desired direction of their own therapy program. Professional organizations should enhance rather than inhibit the client's right of self-determination.

We advocate tolerance

Regardless of the choices people make regarding sexual identity and lifestyle, they deserve to be valued and respected. Their choices should not subject them to discrimination or ridicule. Demands for tolerance by one group can never justify intolerance or ridicule of another.


We are not an advocacy group and do not actively support any political causes. This website is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information with regard to the subject matter covered. It is provided with the understanding that neither the authors nor the publisher is engaged in rendering professional advice. If professional assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought.