This website was created by people who believe that if you experience unwanted same-sex attraction, you have options—you don’t have to accept a gay identity. If you want to, you can resolve your same-sex attractions. Same-sex attraction is not an inborn and unchangeable condition like some people want you to believe.
This website presents options and practical solutions to resolve the personal problems you face. There is hope. We know there are solutions because we have experienced them in our own lives, and there are thousands of people who have found the same success we have. We have developed this website to help you experience real change in your life, if that is what you want to do. Our motivation for resolving our same-sex attractions was spiritual, and therefore, we make reference to spiritual aspects of this process of growth out of same-sex attraction. Whatever your motivation may be, it must be strong and constant, since the struggle won’t be easy and will take a while.
Most of the theories, approaches, and ideas on this site relate to men. Much of this information may also be helpful to women who experience same-sex attraction and some may not. More research needs to be done on women’s issues to better determine causes and solutions.
Throughout this website, we give examples of how people have dealt with particular issues. In all cases, these examples involve real people and real events, although many of the names have been changed to protect identities.
What We Stand For
We support personal choice
Many people who experience same-sex attractions choose not to embrace a gay identity or engage in homosexual behavior. In many cases, they also choose to affirm and develop their heterosexual desires and pursue a traditional heterosexual life. We respect and affirm their choice.
We support the individual's right to know
We do not seek to force our viewpoint on anyone, to tell others what they should do, or to shut down others' voices. We encourage alternatives to living a homosexual life—alternatives that many have found to be positive, life-affirming, and congruent with their values, morals, and beliefs. We support freedom of information.
We support client self-determination
Individuals conflicted over their same-sex attractions have the right to decide whether to seek counseling or therapy, what kind of counseling to seek, to be made aware of all alternatives, and to determine the desired direction of their own therapy program. Professional organizations should enhance rather than inhibit the client's right of self-determination.
We advocate tolerance
Individuals who have transitioned out of a former gay identity and lifestyle, or who choose to pursue alternatives to homosexuality, deserve tolerance and acceptance. Their choices should not subject them to discrimination, ridicule, or marginalization, or make them the target of hate speech or accusations of homophobia. Demands for tolerance by one group can never justify intolerance or ridicule of another.
We advocate policy neutrality
All branches of government should avoid actions or decisions that would inhibit free speech about, or the practice of, freely chosen alternatives to homosexuality. Of particular concern are laws regarding hate crimes and sexual orientation that may be construed to make it illegal to promote or even speak about alternatives to homosexuality.
We claim equal access to public forums
We claim equal access to public forums to state our viewpoint, share our experience, and to raise awareness of alternative responses to a gay identity and lifestyle. This is particularly vital in cases where public schools address the issue of sexual orientation.